Why polyamory is better

Read more: I'm bisexual — here are 5 things I wish people understood. Russel, who's also bisexual, finds polyamory is an ongoing educational experience in the bedroom.

He says he sees his future "standing on three legs," and not only because a woman could bring the prospect of pregnancy, but also because a third partner would mean more financial, emotional, and logistical support. Andre Shakti , a sex educator, coach, and columnist in Baltimore, has been openly non-monogamous for a decade. She typically has two or three committed long-term partnerships at once, as well as some casual connections across the country.

Among other benefits, Shakti appreciates the broad resource pool her lifestyle brings her. Read more: People in relationships with multiple partners reveal 7 things about what it's really like. Shakti, who often works more than 60 hours a week, also said being accountable to more than one person forces her to be diligent about her own self-care.

Russel also finds polyamory has made her grow as a person. Ella, in particular, noted that this could sometimes be a source of worry. Currently, she is in two separate relationships with two different polyamorous men, but her relationships are hierarchical: She has a primary and a secondary partner, which means, among other things, that she dedicates a set — and distinct — amount of time to each. While she said that this has worked well for them so far, she explained that she could well imagine a situation in which time might become even more difficult to negotiate.

Am I going to have to neglect [my primary partner] for like a week or two? Despite these challenges, there seems to be an overarching sentiment that polyamory is worth the effort, purely for the amount of love and support that goes around among the partners. Disclaimer: We have changed the names of all the interviewees featured in this article to protect their identities. How can a person identify if they are transgender?

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Polyamory: Beyond the confines of monogamous love. Written by Maria Cohut, Ph. In fact, an estimated 4 to 5 percent of Americans are looking outside their relationship for love and sex — with their partner's full permission. These consensually nonmonogamous relationships, as they're called, don't conform to the cultural norm of a handholding couple in love for life.

They come in a dizzying array of forms, from occasional "swinging" and open relationships to long-term commitments among multiple people. Now, social scientists embarking on brand-new research into these types of relationships are finding that they may challenge the ways we think of jealousy, commitment and love. They may even change monogamy for the better. All of that negotiation may hold a lesson for the monogamously inclined, Holmes told LiveScience.

The study of consensual nonmonogamy is a relatively new field. In the s, partner-swapping and swinging recreational sex outside of a relationship came into the public eye, and psychologists conducted a few studies. But that research was limited to mostly white, heterosexual couples who engaged in swinging for fun, according to Elisabeth Sheff, a legal consultant and former Georgia State University professor, writing in in the Journal of Contemporary Ethnography.

That means little is yet known about who participates in consensual nonmonogamy and why. Research is largely limited to self-report and surveys, in which people can be tempted to present themselves in a positive light. There are, however, some key definitions to understand. Consensual nonmonogamy contains multitudes. It includes sex-only arrangements, such as two committed partners agreeing that they're allowed to seek no-strings-attached sex with other people.

It also includes polyamory, which involves multiple committed relationships at once with the consent and knowledge of everyone involved. Join YourTango Experts. Photo: getty. Jackie Melfi. Subscribe to our newsletter. Hey You! Want more of YourTango's best articles , seriously addictive horoscopes and top expert advice? Sign up to get our free daily newsletter! Sign up now!